Some interesting ideas:
1.) Times of silence (after an evening meeting for a couple of hours)
2.) Weekend of study: fellowship and everyone gets their homework done. Everyone brings homework, terms papers etc.
3.) Minority Weekend: Give group a glimpse of prejudice. Divide the group into 2 sub-groups. Each sub-group plays the role of a minority for half of the weekend.
Kids seem to love free time at retreats. Try giving them a full free day. Let them know the day before that they can do exactly as they like. When everyone gets up in the morning, they’ll discover that the cooks were also free and there’s no breakfast. They’ll hopefully form groups to get things done. Everything will be a group decision. They’ll learn that discipline is essential, especially in youth groups. *** I think a youth leader may be needed to help get things off the ground just in case chaos develops. Plan in advance for such an occasion.
For large retreats: Buy or make books and put a prayer or poem on the cover – for each retreatant. Put retreatants name on the book and at the first part of the retreat explain to the students that the books are to be left in the room but that they should take the time to write in each book an honest and helpful note to the person who has their name on the book. Everyone should take the time to write in each book. This will greatly help each teen feel more a part of the group. This is especially good for a fall retreat when everyone is new.
Before a retreat, contact parents a couple weeks ahead of time to notify them to write a letter to their son or daughter, which will be read by their kid at the retreat. The kids should have no idea that this is being done. The letter can include encouragement, love, and other things people usually don’t find the time to say in their busy lives. We’ve found that the best time to do this is the morning that we are headed back home, because the kids are generally in a tired but calm and reflective mood. Hand out the letters and instruct the kids to find a space of their own to read the letter to themselves (doing this outside is nice). These letters can really open up communication with adolescents and their parents, and let them know that they really care. This is a great activity for high schoolers, where tension with their parents can run very high.
This idea is planned for this spring and has already sparked a lot of interest.
The youth will be instructed to meet at our church ballfield with only a blanket, the clothes they have on and a Bible. They will also be instructed to come barefooted.
We will make cardboard and twine shoes.
The first day will be spent going to church members’ houses to get cardboard or anything to build a shelter with, this will be their weekend lodging. We will have food hid in various locations to be found by the youth.
Illustrations will be used such as Paul’s missionary travels. This retreat will be twofold: #1 to teach the youth how others live not just in other countries but also in the USA. #2 to let the youth know that they can have fun in fellowship without worldly commodities. As a new youth minister I look for new ways to enlighten the youth and build on the foundation of Christ centered fellowship.
Well, this is based on the book and story of Jonah.
You go into a place, can be in the church building or in a house, depending on the size of your group.
You get the kids to bring flashlights, sleeping bags, pillows, food and drinks, and most importantly, their Bible.
You turn out the lights, and you spend 24 hours in the dark. You spend this time studying Jonah, playing games related to that book, and doing other things you can in the dark. Allowing the kids to sleep any time they need to and awaking when they feel like it.
Do NOT allow watches or clocks in the building. Choose a room close to a bathroom.
Get someone to agree to get the group when the 24 hours are finished.
This is a good way to get a slight idea of how Jonah might have felt.
This retreat is based upon the TV series “Survivor”. Arrange for two large campsites at a state park or local camping site. Depending upon what type of terrain you are closest to will determine the theme of the retreat. Divide your group into two “tribes” and designate a name for each. Ensure the participants have a minimal amount of gear and only one luxury item each.
Have the tribes compete in a series of both physical and spiritual challenges. Such as relay races or Bible drills. The winning tribe receives some luxury, such as, air matresses, tiki torches w/ bug repellent oil, candy bars, you name it! At the end of each evening you can hold a “tribal council” devotional around a bon-fire, unlike the TV series, no one is voted out and everyone wins. This works when you have a diversity in ages as well. Even parents can get into it. Maybe even put them in opposite tribes.
Find a retreat facility that is in need of some volunteer work. I know of some that will lower their rates if you will come and donate the labor. This is something that can help build your group and add a sense of ownership to a facility. If you live anywhere near Arkansas, check out www.gbgm-umc.org/outdoorministries for access to 3 campgrounds and a retreat facility. I did a work retreat at Mt Eagle last spring and we got to cut a new hiking trail that was a prayer walk. Those of us that went really bonded as we got down and dirty moving downed trees, raking, building steps and benches, etc. This can be great for a small group. Make sure that you find out what equipment you need to bring for the project and let your participants know what will be expected of them.
Much like the MTV show by the same name, but it is a spiritual retreat put on wheels, with stops along the way for food, sleep, and bathrooms (of course)- BUT also for devotional times (connected with a location), challenges, mini-events, and other craziness.
Combine “Discipleship Now”, “Survivor”, a lock-in, and then put it on wheels. Your destination can be someplace particular or it can be absolutely no where (the trip is the event). Lots of bonding, Lots of fun, Lots of spiritual growth!!!
We saw this idea on T.V. for a whole other reason, but we took the general idea and put a Christian twist on it. We used this idea on our winter retreat. After all the youth had ate and we had done our nightly devotion we set the mood. We set out a lot of lit candles in the room and played music in the background, (we repeatly played “Friends are Friends Forever”). We asked the youth to all stand in a circle and hold hands. Then we set the scene….”We’re all aboard the Titantic and it’s going down! But there is only one lifeboat big enough to hold one person….who’s it gonna be?” Now explain to the youth that they are going to decide by choosing one person to live. Each member of the youth group must go to each person in the circle and say “You LIVE” or “You DIE” they can only choose one person to live.
This will be a tender moment for the youth as they realize how precious life is and what kind of testimony they will be living behind. After each one has gone see who had the most “You LIVE”‘s and pull them to the front of the group.
Then say ” O.K. guys the water is coming up on the deck, we’ve gotta get Liz into the lifeboat, but before she goes, you have one last chance to tell her something to carry back to your family and friends… remember keep it quick the water is almost here”
Our youth took this time to reflect on their lives and shared things like, tell my uncle if he wants to see me again he needs to get saved, and others said tell my parents I love them and I’m sorry for all the times I did wrong.
It was a hard thing for the kids but it brought them closer together and mostly closer to the Lord! After taking Liz from the room we played the song one more time and let those left behind take that time for themselves. Then after the song we told them…”LOOK! what’s that? Off In the distance it was the Carpathia, you have been rescued! Now take back your messages yourself and commit each day be a stonger Christan and witness for Christ!
This exercise is such a spiritual one, if done right and in the right way, We saw God move in a unbelieveable way and I preached on how Christ was my Carpaitha! Our youth grew in Christ because he was present!!